Eats Shoots and Leaves ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
None Like Him ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 💫
The Path Between Us ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Swing ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 💫
Digital Minimalism ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Pride and Prejudice ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Where the Crawdads Sing ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Sunday, March 31, 2019
Friday, March 29, 2019
I love the idea of this, of opposing sides coming together for conversation rather than debate, of valuing the relationship more than winning. So many of the things Holland and Silvers said in the first third of the book that I read were quite true, even inspiring. But honestly, they are saying what I already intuitively know: we have a real situation with how polarized things are right now, and if anything is to improve, we need to listen with compassion and open-mindedness instead of self-righteousness and assuming the worst, and that most of us need to be more informed of the facts in general but it's tough to do that when most of the information reaching our ears is from pundits.
"Empathy does not equal endorsement."
"Judas both made a terrible mistake and remains beloved. Judas is both sinner and child of God just as we are." I'm with you when you say that I can value the sanctity of life AND value a woman and her body, but I'm not sure I agree on your theology there.
"Empathy does not equal endorsement."
"Judas both made a terrible mistake and remains beloved. Judas is both sinner and child of God just as we are." I'm with you when you say that I can value the sanctity of life AND value a woman and her body, but I'm not sure I agree on your theology there.
Saturday, March 2, 2019
2019 January-April Book Quotes
Anna Karenina
On how Levin viewed Kitty: "for him all the girls in the world were divided into two classes: one class—all the girls in the world except her, and those girls with all sorts of human weaknesses, and very ordinary girls; the other class—she alone, having no weaknesses of any sort and higher than all humanity."
Right after Anna and Vronsky finally suddenly sleep together.
"'My God! Forgive me!' she said, sobbing, pressing his hands to her bosom.
"She felt so sinful, so guilty, that nothing was left her but to
humiliate herself and beg forgiveness; and as now there was no one in
her life but him, to him she addressed her prayer for forgiveness.
Looking at him, she had a physical sense of her humiliation, and she
could say nothing more."
"'If you try to break a cord that is slack it is not easy to break it, but strain that cord to its utmost and the weight of a finger will snap it.'" --the doctor
"Karenin expressed the view that the higher educaiton of women is generally confounded with the question of women's emancipaiton, and that was the only reason for ocnsidering it injurious.
"'I, on the contrary, think that these two questions are firmly bound together, said Pestsov. 'It is a vicious circle. Women are deprived of rights because of their lack of education, and their lack of education results from their lack of rights.'"
"Vronsky and Anna were talking in the hushed voice in which--partly not to offend the artist, and partly not to utter aloud a stupid remark such as is so easily made when speaking about art--people generally talk at picture exhibitions."
Karenin to Serezha: "It's not the reward but the work that is precious. I wish you understood that. You see, if you take pains and learn in order to get a reward, the work will seem hard; but when you work...if you love your work, you will find your reward in that.'"
The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
"A quiet conscience does not occasion such paleness in the cheeks, and such fear in the hands of a man."--the Count
"To no class of persons is the presentation of a gratuitous opera box
more acceptable than to the wealthy millionaire, who still boasts
economy while carrying a king's ransom in his waistcoat
pocket."--narrator
"...in the eyes of the world, a large fortune covers all defects"--The Count
"You cannot control circumstances, my dear sir. Man proposes, and God disposes." --The Count
Digital Minimalism
“ A major reason that I recommend taking an extended break before trying to transform your digital life is that without the clarity provided by detox, the addictive people of the technologies will bias your decisions” (70).
“ for this process to succeed, you must also spend this. Trying to rediscover what is important to you and what you enjoy outside the world of the always – on, shiny digital.… For many people, their compulsive fill newspapers over avoid created by a lack of a well-developed leisure life” (71).
“… Solitude can be banished and even in the quietest setting if you allow input from other mines to intrude… Solitude requires you to move past reacting to information created by other people and focus instead on your own thoughts and experiences – wherever you happen to be (94).
“Many of these [digital communication] tools are engineered to hijack our social instincts to create an addictive allure” (143). “If you don’t first reform your relationship with tools like social media and text messaging, attempts to shoehorn more conversation [or whatever you decide is most meaningful, healthy, etc] into your life are likely to fail. It can’t simply be digital business as usual augmented with more time for authentic conversation/the shift in behavior will need to be more fundamental” (146).
“Turtle draws a distinction between connection, her word for the low-bandwidth interactions that define our online social lives, and conversation, the much richer, high band with communication that defines real world encounters between humans” (144). Terkel is quoted, “Face-to-face conversation unfolds slowly. It teaches us patience. We attend to tone and nuance…When we communicate on our digital devices, we learn different habits” (145).
“... Conversation is the good stuff; it’s what we crave as humans and what provides us with the sense of community and belonging necessary to thrive. Connection, on the other hand, the appealing in the moment, provides very little of what we need “ (150).
“The key is the intention behind what you decide, not necessarily its details” (151).
“Consolidate texting” so it doesn’t so closely resemble an ongoing conversation that you are tempted to view it as a substitute.
On the importance of developing a “high-quality leisure life”...often digital noise helps us ignore the fact that we don’t have high-quality leisure lives. Without access to “mindless swiping and tapping,” it’s easy to become discontent, not necessarily for “craving a particular digital habit, but because he didn’t know what to do with himself once his general access to the world of connected screens was removed” (168). “Many minimalists will describe a phenomenon in which digital habits that they previously felt to be essential to their daily schedule suddenly seemed frivolous once they became more intentional about what they did with their time. When the void is filled, you know longer need distractions to help you avoid it” (169).
Quoting from Arnold Bennet’s How to Live on 24 Hours A Day: “ One of the chief things which my typical man has to learn is that the mental faculties are capable of a continuous hard activity; they do not tire like an arm or a leg. All they want is change — not rest, except in sleep” (176).
“A foundational’s name in digital minimalism is that new technology, when used with care and attention, create a better life then either Luddism or mindless adoption” (193).
Eats, Shoots and Leaves
"'Come inside,' it says, 'for CD's, VIDEO's, DVD's, and BOOK's.'
"If this satanic sprinkling of redundant apostrophes causes no little gasp or horror or quickening of the pulse, you should probably put down this book at once. By all means congratulate yourself that you are not a pedant or even a stickler; that you are happily equipped to live in a world of plummeting punctuation standards; but just don't bother to go any further. For any true stickler, you see, the signs of the plural word 'Book's' with an apostrophe in it will trigger a ghastly private emotional process similar to the stages of bereavement, though greatly accelerated. First there is shock. Within seconds, shock gives way to disbelief, disbelief to pain, and pain to anger. Finally (and this is where the analogy breaks down), anger gives way to a righteous urge to perpetrate an act of criminal damage with the aid of a permanent marker."
"Part of one's despair, of course, is that the world cares nothing for the little shocks endured by the sensitive stickler."
"It is no accident that the word 'punctioious' ('attentive to formality or etiquette') comes from the same original root word as punctuation."
"Sticklers unite, you have nothing to loser but your sense of proportion, and arguably you didn't have a lot of that to begin with. maybe we won't change the world, but at least we'll feel better....Because--here's the important thing--you won't be alone. That's always been the problem for sticklers, you see. The feeling of isolation."
"A degree in English language is not a prerequisite for caring about where a bracket is preferred to a dash, or a comma needs to be replaced by a semicolon. If I did not believe that everyone is capable of understanding where an apostrophe goes, I would not be writing this book."
"Next week: nouns and apostrophe's! (BBC website advertising grammar course for children)"
"Nowadays the fashion is against grammatical fussiness. A passage peppered with commas--which in the past would have indicated painstaking and authoritative editorial attention--smacks simply of no backbone."
The yob's comma: "'The yob's comma, of course, has no syntactical value: it is the equivalent of a fuddled gasp for breath, as the poor writer marshals his battered thoughts.'"
"Yet there will always be a problem aobut getting rid of teh hyphen: if it's not extra-marital sex (with a hyphen), it is perhaps extra marital sex, which is quite a different bunch of coconuts. Phrases abound that cry out for hyphens. Those much-invoked examples of the little used care, the superfluous hair remover, the pickled herring merchant, the slow moving traffic and the two hundred odd members of the Conservative Party would all be lost without it."
When she says that the internet "cannot be used as an instrument of oppression and is endlessly inclusive"---I can't tell if she's being serious?
"Proper punctuation is both the sign and the cause of clear thinking."
O Heavy Lightness Lent guide by Erin Moon
Our own personal happiness is the scourge of modern belief because it often comes at the expense of our soul, or the soul of someone else...He wants to bring life to us through His gifts, because His goal is not our happiness, but abundant life (Day 9)
I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening)
“We grow when our ideas about policy and problems are challenged. We become better thinkers, more articulate speakers, and more earnest listeners through the daily discomfort of engaging with other people about difficult subjects. Conflict is healthy. Conflict is necessary. Without conflict we stay in a comfortable state of arrested development” (147).
Quoting Dr Sherry Pagoto—“Exercise is uncomfortable— uncomfortable relative to our typical reality, that is. We live in a society where we keep the indoor temperature adjusted to perfection all year round, wrap ourselves and soft clothing, wear thick-soled shoes to protect our feet from harm, lay on cushy beds draped in poofy covers, and shower and scrub with warm water and soap every single day. Is all of this First-World pampering making us intolerant to even mild physical discomfort? Maybe exercise isn’t too uncomfortable – maybe our every day lives are a little too comfortable.”
“United without being unanimous”
Still Waiting
“God understands. Not one tear has been lost on him. Not a single one. Your suffering is as real to him as it has been to you. He knows what it has cost you, and he wants to comfort you in your pain” (156).
Courage, Dear Heart
“Posture tends to reveal as much about a scholar as his arguments.”
“Even when God is severe, he does not project indifference.”
Emma
Emma hated "always doing more than she wished and less than she ought."
On how Levin viewed Kitty: "for him all the girls in the world were divided into two classes: one class—all the girls in the world except her, and those girls with all sorts of human weaknesses, and very ordinary girls; the other class—she alone, having no weaknesses of any sort and higher than all humanity."
Right after Anna and Vronsky finally suddenly sleep together.
"'My God! Forgive me!' she said, sobbing, pressing his hands to her bosom.
"She felt so sinful, so guilty, that nothing was left her but to
humiliate herself and beg forgiveness; and as now there was no one in
her life but him, to him she addressed her prayer for forgiveness.
Looking at him, she had a physical sense of her humiliation, and she
could say nothing more."
"'If you try to break a cord that is slack it is not easy to break it, but strain that cord to its utmost and the weight of a finger will snap it.'" --the doctor
"Karenin expressed the view that the higher educaiton of women is generally confounded with the question of women's emancipaiton, and that was the only reason for ocnsidering it injurious.
"'I, on the contrary, think that these two questions are firmly bound together, said Pestsov. 'It is a vicious circle. Women are deprived of rights because of their lack of education, and their lack of education results from their lack of rights.'"
"Vronsky and Anna were talking in the hushed voice in which--partly not to offend the artist, and partly not to utter aloud a stupid remark such as is so easily made when speaking about art--people generally talk at picture exhibitions."
Karenin to Serezha: "It's not the reward but the work that is precious. I wish you understood that. You see, if you take pains and learn in order to get a reward, the work will seem hard; but when you work...if you love your work, you will find your reward in that.'"
The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
"A quiet conscience does not occasion such paleness in the cheeks, and such fear in the hands of a man."--the Count
"To no class of persons is the presentation of a gratuitous opera box
more acceptable than to the wealthy millionaire, who still boasts
economy while carrying a king's ransom in his waistcoat
pocket."--narrator
"...in the eyes of the world, a large fortune covers all defects"--The Count
"You cannot control circumstances, my dear sir. Man proposes, and God disposes." --The Count
Digital Minimalism
“ A major reason that I recommend taking an extended break before trying to transform your digital life is that without the clarity provided by detox, the addictive people of the technologies will bias your decisions” (70).
“ for this process to succeed, you must also spend this. Trying to rediscover what is important to you and what you enjoy outside the world of the always – on, shiny digital.… For many people, their compulsive fill newspapers over avoid created by a lack of a well-developed leisure life” (71).
“… Solitude can be banished and even in the quietest setting if you allow input from other mines to intrude… Solitude requires you to move past reacting to information created by other people and focus instead on your own thoughts and experiences – wherever you happen to be (94).
“Many of these [digital communication] tools are engineered to hijack our social instincts to create an addictive allure” (143). “If you don’t first reform your relationship with tools like social media and text messaging, attempts to shoehorn more conversation [or whatever you decide is most meaningful, healthy, etc] into your life are likely to fail. It can’t simply be digital business as usual augmented with more time for authentic conversation/the shift in behavior will need to be more fundamental” (146).
“Turtle draws a distinction between connection, her word for the low-bandwidth interactions that define our online social lives, and conversation, the much richer, high band with communication that defines real world encounters between humans” (144). Terkel is quoted, “Face-to-face conversation unfolds slowly. It teaches us patience. We attend to tone and nuance…When we communicate on our digital devices, we learn different habits” (145).
“... Conversation is the good stuff; it’s what we crave as humans and what provides us with the sense of community and belonging necessary to thrive. Connection, on the other hand, the appealing in the moment, provides very little of what we need “ (150).
“The key is the intention behind what you decide, not necessarily its details” (151).
“Consolidate texting” so it doesn’t so closely resemble an ongoing conversation that you are tempted to view it as a substitute.
On the importance of developing a “high-quality leisure life”...often digital noise helps us ignore the fact that we don’t have high-quality leisure lives. Without access to “mindless swiping and tapping,” it’s easy to become discontent, not necessarily for “craving a particular digital habit, but because he didn’t know what to do with himself once his general access to the world of connected screens was removed” (168). “Many minimalists will describe a phenomenon in which digital habits that they previously felt to be essential to their daily schedule suddenly seemed frivolous once they became more intentional about what they did with their time. When the void is filled, you know longer need distractions to help you avoid it” (169).
Quoting from Arnold Bennet’s How to Live on 24 Hours A Day: “ One of the chief things which my typical man has to learn is that the mental faculties are capable of a continuous hard activity; they do not tire like an arm or a leg. All they want is change — not rest, except in sleep” (176).
“A foundational’s name in digital minimalism is that new technology, when used with care and attention, create a better life then either Luddism or mindless adoption” (193).
Eats, Shoots and Leaves
"'Come inside,' it says, 'for CD's, VIDEO's, DVD's, and BOOK's.'
"If this satanic sprinkling of redundant apostrophes causes no little gasp or horror or quickening of the pulse, you should probably put down this book at once. By all means congratulate yourself that you are not a pedant or even a stickler; that you are happily equipped to live in a world of plummeting punctuation standards; but just don't bother to go any further. For any true stickler, you see, the signs of the plural word 'Book's' with an apostrophe in it will trigger a ghastly private emotional process similar to the stages of bereavement, though greatly accelerated. First there is shock. Within seconds, shock gives way to disbelief, disbelief to pain, and pain to anger. Finally (and this is where the analogy breaks down), anger gives way to a righteous urge to perpetrate an act of criminal damage with the aid of a permanent marker."
"Part of one's despair, of course, is that the world cares nothing for the little shocks endured by the sensitive stickler."
"It is no accident that the word 'punctioious' ('attentive to formality or etiquette') comes from the same original root word as punctuation."
"Sticklers unite, you have nothing to loser but your sense of proportion, and arguably you didn't have a lot of that to begin with. maybe we won't change the world, but at least we'll feel better....Because--here's the important thing--you won't be alone. That's always been the problem for sticklers, you see. The feeling of isolation."
"A degree in English language is not a prerequisite for caring about where a bracket is preferred to a dash, or a comma needs to be replaced by a semicolon. If I did not believe that everyone is capable of understanding where an apostrophe goes, I would not be writing this book."
"Next week: nouns and apostrophe's! (BBC website advertising grammar course for children)"
"Nowadays the fashion is against grammatical fussiness. A passage peppered with commas--which in the past would have indicated painstaking and authoritative editorial attention--smacks simply of no backbone."
The yob's comma: "'The yob's comma, of course, has no syntactical value: it is the equivalent of a fuddled gasp for breath, as the poor writer marshals his battered thoughts.'"
"Yet there will always be a problem aobut getting rid of teh hyphen: if it's not extra-marital sex (with a hyphen), it is perhaps extra marital sex, which is quite a different bunch of coconuts. Phrases abound that cry out for hyphens. Those much-invoked examples of the little used care, the superfluous hair remover, the pickled herring merchant, the slow moving traffic and the two hundred odd members of the Conservative Party would all be lost without it."
When she says that the internet "cannot be used as an instrument of oppression and is endlessly inclusive"---I can't tell if she's being serious?
"Proper punctuation is both the sign and the cause of clear thinking."
O Heavy Lightness Lent guide by Erin Moon
Our own personal happiness is the scourge of modern belief because it often comes at the expense of our soul, or the soul of someone else...He wants to bring life to us through His gifts, because His goal is not our happiness, but abundant life (Day 9)
I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening)
“We grow when our ideas about policy and problems are challenged. We become better thinkers, more articulate speakers, and more earnest listeners through the daily discomfort of engaging with other people about difficult subjects. Conflict is healthy. Conflict is necessary. Without conflict we stay in a comfortable state of arrested development” (147).
Quoting Dr Sherry Pagoto—“Exercise is uncomfortable— uncomfortable relative to our typical reality, that is. We live in a society where we keep the indoor temperature adjusted to perfection all year round, wrap ourselves and soft clothing, wear thick-soled shoes to protect our feet from harm, lay on cushy beds draped in poofy covers, and shower and scrub with warm water and soap every single day. Is all of this First-World pampering making us intolerant to even mild physical discomfort? Maybe exercise isn’t too uncomfortable – maybe our every day lives are a little too comfortable.”
“United without being unanimous”
Still Waiting
“God understands. Not one tear has been lost on him. Not a single one. Your suffering is as real to him as it has been to you. He knows what it has cost you, and he wants to comfort you in your pain” (156).
Courage, Dear Heart
“Posture tends to reveal as much about a scholar as his arguments.”
“Even when God is severe, he does not project indifference.”
Emma
Emma hated "always doing more than she wished and less than she ought."
Thursday, February 28, 2019
January & February 2019
🎧The Count of Monte Cristo
📚In His Image
🎧Anna Karenina
📚The Enneagram Made Easy
📚In His Image
🎧Anna Karenina
📚The Enneagram Made Easy
Monday, December 31, 2018
Friday, November 30, 2018
November 2018
Brooklyn by Colm Toibin
Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry
Waking the Dead by John Eldridge
How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg
Favorite Quotes:
How We Love
"Anger may be the only emotion you feel safe to express because it is."
"..so marriage has to be a safe place to show emotions, especially the ones you were discouraged from showing as a child."
"Have you ever noticed how hard it is to have an emotional connection when no emotions are apparent?"
"INFP, the most sensitive, idealistic, insightful, and conflicted of all the types..."
Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry
Waking the Dead by John Eldridge
How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg
Favorite Quotes:
How We Love
"Anger may be the only emotion you feel safe to express because it is."
"..so marriage has to be a safe place to show emotions, especially the ones you were discouraged from showing as a child."
"Have you ever noticed how hard it is to have an emotional connection when no emotions are apparent?"
"INFP, the most sensitive, idealistic, insightful, and conflicted of all the types..."
Thursday, November 15, 2018
11.18.2018 🎧 Brooklyn by Colm Toibin
Eilis is described as "hesitant and slow" (as a customer shopping).
She seems to usually feel like others know what to do and she doesn't.
She pretends to be sick to miss a dance.
In a sense, she's doing exciting things and making new connections and learning a lot. In another sense, she's just letting life happen to her, doing what she must, and not sparing a thought for more. I've come to see her as a wonderful example of an unhealthy enneagram 9.
Here are a couple more quotes I pulled out. I notice now that all of them are 9ish things to which I relate.
"For each day, she thought, she needed a whole other day to contemplate what had happened and store it away, get it out of her system, so that it did not keep her awake at night, or fill her dreams with flashes of what had actually happened, and other flashes that had nothing to do with anything familiar, but were full of rushes of color, or crowds of people, everything frenzied and fast."
"She would not try to postpone any further what she had to do, but the prospect of [telling others what she had decided to do] still filled her with fear, enough for her once more to put both ideas out of her mind. She would think about them soon, she thought, but not now."
"But she realized that it would be best to do nothing."
Was there ever a truer summation of my numbed out, void of all intention, tendencies than that second to last on?! Oh, the thought of making anyone else unhappy is just too scary, so "I think I'll just think about that later."
I was really, really hoping that we would see some growth in her by the end. I mean, even if it had to be the decision between 2 love interests, pick boldly, and pick for yourself! But until the very end, we never knew what she wanted. Did she even know what she wanted? I felt defeated along with her. Such behavior in another is so obvious. Lord, have mercy.
She seems to usually feel like others know what to do and she doesn't.
She pretends to be sick to miss a dance.
In a sense, she's doing exciting things and making new connections and learning a lot. In another sense, she's just letting life happen to her, doing what she must, and not sparing a thought for more. I've come to see her as a wonderful example of an unhealthy enneagram 9.
Here are a couple more quotes I pulled out. I notice now that all of them are 9ish things to which I relate.
"For each day, she thought, she needed a whole other day to contemplate what had happened and store it away, get it out of her system, so that it did not keep her awake at night, or fill her dreams with flashes of what had actually happened, and other flashes that had nothing to do with anything familiar, but were full of rushes of color, or crowds of people, everything frenzied and fast."
"She would not try to postpone any further what she had to do, but the prospect of [telling others what she had decided to do] still filled her with fear, enough for her once more to put both ideas out of her mind. She would think about them soon, she thought, but not now."
"But she realized that it would be best to do nothing."
Was there ever a truer summation of my numbed out, void of all intention, tendencies than that second to last on?! Oh, the thought of making anyone else unhappy is just too scary, so "I think I'll just think about that later."
I was really, really hoping that we would see some growth in her by the end. I mean, even if it had to be the decision between 2 love interests, pick boldly, and pick for yourself! But until the very end, we never knew what she wanted. Did she even know what she wanted? I felt defeated along with her. Such behavior in another is so obvious. Lord, have mercy.
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