Searching for Spring by Christine Hoover

"This is the work of the Christian, to say without equivocation, ' As the clay, I am the thing being shaped, and I certainly don't now more than the providential Potter.'....Certainly, we must wrestle our hearts into rest, but in continually wrestling without finally resting--and God will give you this option, waiting patiently by--we will ask why for our entire lives. In resting, we don't escape suffering, grief, or inconsolable things but we stand in a hope that a greater story is unfolding and, in seeing the story arc, we're able to see our own lives in sharper focus, through a lens of beauty" (92).

"The Spirit-led aren't trying to change the world so much as they are trying to allow God to change them in a way that spills over like a song into the world" (107).

"We must think in order to be thankful. And we must be thankful in order to experience joy. The greatest tragedies of our age are our constant motion, our overscheduled lives, and our obsessive attachment to our screens. We tend to believe we'll be robbed of happiness if we fail to match the world's pace step for step when in fact this pace robs us of the simplicity that displays beauty, which in turn leads to thanksgiving and, after thanksgiving, joy. If busyness mutes beauty, what mutes busyness? Beauty, of course. Paying attention to small gifts of everyday life helps us see and savor and, in turn, makes our distracted, numb hearts beat with thankfulness. Thankfulness will lead to joy, because when we're still, God himself will whisper it into our hearts" (171). 

"God is not often found in our excessive busyness" (172).


"I read somewhere that when you do something that feels like worship, you've found your calling" (189).

"Although my life was characterized for years by self-condemnation and self-flagellation, I didn't realize how much I needed this grace. I didn't want to look at the reality of my life nor the reality of this world. It took me so long to see, and when I finally did, I saw darkness all around for perhaps the first time. This is, in fact, not morbid but rather a key component to understanding the gospel and, as a result, creating as a Christian. Our Christian kitsch betrays our preference for turning blind eyes to the reality of sin, darkness, and hopelessness in this world. We throw verses around like Band-Aids. We wrap up suffering in neat little bows as if the thirty minutes in the sitcom are almost up. We require that our songs consist of overtly Christian words and major cords. We have no patience for mystery, for nuance, for poignancy. We must not be afraid to look, really look, at the realities of life. We must not convey that the inconsolable things don't exist. We of all people should be able to do so, because we know the extent of grace, we know the power of the Holy Spirit to transform hearts, we know a hope that holds like an anchor" (193).

The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah

"He loves a version of me that is incomplete. I always thought it was what I wanted, to be loved an admired. Now I think perhaps, I'd like to be known" (Chapter 1).

"A girl leading pilots across the Pyrenees? Will wonders never cease?"

"She wanted to kill him. She wanted to kill herself. What would Antoine think of her now? Truthfully, the biggest part of her wanted to curl up in a ball in some dark corner and never show her face again. But even that, shame, was a luxury these days. How could she worry about herself, when Isabel was in prison?" (Chapter 34).

"'Why have I never heard anything about all this? And not just from you. Sophie never said a word. Hell, I didn't even know that people escaped over the mountains or that there was a concentration camp just for women who resisted the Nazis.'
"'Men tell stories,' I say. It is the truest, simplist answer to his question. 'Women get on with it. For us, it was a shadow war. There were no parades for us when it was over, no medals or mentions in history books. We did what we had to during the war. And when it was over, we picked up the pieces and started over.'" (Chapter 39).

And So To Bed by Adrian Reynolds

“...there may be medical (or physical or mental) or environmental reasons why sleep is hard to come by. 
But, I don’t think sleep is at any time less than a spiritual issue. Let me explain. Our beings cannot easily
 be separated into physical and spiritual elements. We are whole beings. Even very straightforward 
physical ailments hae spiritual elements and significance to them. For example, let’s say I broke my arm
 badly....Now, that was a purely physical issue, wasn’t it? My arm was broken in several places, my wrist 
was damaged and it just needed time and good medical care to sort out. Right. Well, sort of right. 
There’s no indication that there was anything deeply spiritual doing on behind the injury...However,
 here’s the thing: how I reacted to the injury was a spiritual issue: how I dealt with the disappointment of 
a promising tennis career...how I coped with the worry of falling behind in school because I couldn't write;
 how I kept my spirits up and my Christian joy intact; how I would serve in church playing the piano with 
only one hand...the list goes on and on. It was a physical issue which needed medical treatment and
 resolution. But it would be naive to say that it had no spiritual resolution...So, there may well be
 medical reasons for your struggle with sleep. These may be very complex and difficult mental health
 issues, for example, that take a lot of sorting. However, there will still be spiritual elements ot address.” 
(69-71).

I loved this little book. I wish it had been longer, but it’s a great start to discuss a long-neglected subject.
 I had never thought about sleep from a spiritual perspective, and I’m so glad this book helped me start. 
My favorite part was the work Reynolds did elucidating the dynamics between the physical and spiritual.

“I don’t think sleep is at any time less than a spiritual issue.” He goes on to explain that we are whole
 people, and cannot be easily separated into the physical, spiritual, emotional, etc. Then he gives the 
example of breaking an arm and how that is indeed a physical issue, and the odds of it being caused 
by some deep spiritual issue are very small. “However, how I reacted to the injury WAS a spiritual issue.” 
How he reacted to all the ways this affected his life (unable to pursue a tennis career, falling behind in
 school due to inability to write, unable to play the piano in church, etc). What is clear to see in this 
example is also true of sleep: there may be medical / physical / environmental issues that need
 addressing, but there will also be spiritual elements that shouldn’t go neglected.

I don’t think I ever understood this concept before, but it definitely applies to a myriad of life’s issues.

I also learned about sleep as a metaphor for death for the believer, something clearly Biblical...but 
somehow previously missed by me! So, thank you Reynolds!

Today Will Be Different by Maria Semple

Thoughts...

I learned, "Smell the soup, cool the soup" breathing technique from this book.

I loved the definition of art that Spencer and Eleanor explain to Timby: "...this is art, daring to put a frame around something, signing your name, and letting it speak for itself" (95).

I loved the satire. That is Semple's strength, without a doubt. The Costco satire was the best. "A wave of misanthropy swept over me. Why did that lady need a whole drum of Red Vines? What would someone even do with a hundred combs? Did that fatso really need a laminator all to herself? Couldn't she just go to Kinko's? Or that guy, what was he doing with six gallon jugs of generic scotch? And why must they all wear shorts? Thank God I wasn't one of them! Me with my case of highly rated New Zealand sauvignon blanc, my pound of fresh pineapple spears, my salt-and-pepper pistachios, my twelve-pack of dental floss. My items painted a clear picture of my sophistication...my superior taste...my sparkling intelligence" (110).

Obviously this book was relatable as it portrayed how anxiety-inducing and overwhelming an upper-middle-class modern life can be. And it's funny. The satire was funny too, and I think we were supposed to see a lot of hypocrisy there, but the truth is--Eleanor wasn't a very sympathetic character for me. By the end, she seemed needlessly hysterical (even considering the head injury). The plot didn't help her much, in my opinion, as I was unclear as to what the true "main" issue of the story was--her relationship with sister? her marriage? a general sense of overwhelm?--and the resolutions of all the little parts seemed less than satisfying.

Some good questions were raised. I thought a lot about humor, first-world problems, hypocrisy, marriage, and family while reading this book. I thought a lot about women being seen as hysterical, being hysterical, and how much of each is okay.

Cultivate by Lara Casey

"Staying isn't bad. Waiting can be fruitful. But sometimes we stay where we are because of fear, don't we?" (5).

"I discovered that doubts are doorways. When we lean into our doubts, seeking truth where we feel restless and unsure, God leads us to greater faith, and sometimes to unexpected new paths" (9).

"Farmers take a leap of faith each growing season, trusting that what they plant will actually grow. They plant seeds in faith and then believe in what they can't see" (106).

1 Corinthians 3:7: "So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth."

"We want to know every detail of the plan--and to be assured that the outcome will be positive and in our comfort zones--before we begin something, but here's a question for you: Are you planning an intentional life, or are you planting one?" (109).

A Million Little Ways by Emily P. Freeman

"He does not manage us, to-do list us, or bullet-point us. He loves us. And believing him feels impossible, until we do, like a miracle, like lukewarm water turning merlot red right there in the cup. And hope sprouts new, because God doesn't give us a list. He invites us into the story" (17).

"We may be displeased with the ways he wants to reveal his glory through us because they don't look like the ways he reveals his glory through others. We're uncomfortable with the implications and become confused about our own desire" (27).

"We don't have to be so afraid of desire. It's time instead to wake up to it....Your childhood dream delights God. I don't way that because every secret dream will come true. But having a dream is evidence of a person who is fully alive. Having a dream is a reflection of the image of God" (67).

"The truth is, I'm apologizing for the things that aren't sin to avoid acknowledging the things that are" (93).

"The critic points out my weaknesses, but he also forces me to draw a circle around what I believe" (98).

"Can we change out mind about our real goal? Getting in touch with the wart that is alive within you isn't about you making something new. Instead, you have the uniquely human opportunity to re-imagine what already is....The world needs you awake and alive. Does the world need another book? Song? Painted living room? Not necessarily. But the world does need you to come alive right where you are and not where you wish you were" (103).

"Listening to the pain of loss and heartbreak can wake us up to who we are, where we come from, and what matters most. But only if we open ourselves up to them" (112).

Quoting Brene Brown: "There is no such thing as selective emotional numbing. There is a full spectrum of human emotions and when we numb the dark, we numb the light. While i was 'taking the edge off' of the pain and vulnerability, I was also unintentionally dulling my experiences of good feelings, like joy."
"I don't believe we have to have pain to make beautiful art--but when the pain comes, the artist knows she must face it. Grief does deep, sacred work. We have to pay attention to what grieves us and be willing to be fully human, both in what makes come alive and in what has the capacity to shut us down" (117).

"Reject the temptation to believe you need to wait for a new set of life circumstances, a different job, or a new setting. Being who you already are no matter the circumstances of your life is what it means to release the art you were made to live. Respond to God where you are as you are" (126).

"'...why do you still get so nervous?'
Because I'm not cut out for this. And even as I say it, I heard what I can only describe as the Lord whisper, No, you are not cut out. You have been placed in. I really sensed those words, as sure as the way I stumbled an un'd my way through that interview. He reminded me I have been placed into him. Not cut out at all" (137).

"We listened quiet for answers. He offered love instead" (149).

Quoting Michelangelo: "In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it."
..."Seeing the not-yet in the midst of the now is the perspective the artist has to carry. And so we ought to pray not only for skill but for sight" (151).

"The words of Henry Nauwen resonate deeply within me. He writes,
"'Sometimes we are called to proclaim God's love even when we are not yet fully able to live it. Does that mean we are hypocrites? Only when our own words no longer call us to conversion. Nobody completely lives up to his or her own ideals and visions. But by proclaiming our ideals and visions with great conviction and great humility, we may gradually grow into the truth that we speak. As long as we know that our lives always will speak louder than our words, we can trust that our words will remain humble.'"

"Just because I don't like something about myself doesn't mean it's sin. Sometimes I worry more over those parts than the parts that are sin. Isn't there enough of the sin to worry about without micromanaging the unique aspects of your personality? If who you are is random, then yeah, go on a self-improvement program. But if you think God is in control of the whole thing of you, and he made you on purpose for a reason, and you try to be someone else, who will be you? Some stuff about us, our faults or sin, are change worthy. But I think sometimes I think the things we try to make different, are actually the things that make us different."

The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

"In short, you do not have to take the job that will create excessive stress and over-arousal. Someone else will take it, and flourish in it. You do not have to work long hours. Indeed, it may be your duty to work shorter ones. It may be best not to advertise it, but keeping yourself healthy and in your right range of arousal is the first condition for helping others."

"Stay in good contact with many kinds of other people, at work and elsewhere, accepting that no one person can  relate to all of you. Indeed, accepting the loneliness that goes with giftedness may be the most freeing, empowering step of all. But also accept its opposite, that there's no need to feel isolated, for everyone is gifted in some way. And then there's the opposite truth. Non one, including yourself is special in the sense of being exempted from the universals of ageing and death."

"No matter how introverted, you are a social being. You cannot escape your need and spontaneous desire to connect with others, even if your conflicting urge to protect yourself is very strong."

"Over-arousal is easily displaced onto worries, regrets, anything that is handy."

"Overall, sensitivity can greatly enhance intimate communication. You pick on so much more of the subtle cues, the nuances, the paradoxes and ambivalences, the unconscious processes. You understand that this sort of communication requires patience, you are loyal, conscientious, and appreciative enough of the value of the relationship to be willing to give it the time. The main problem is, as always, over-arousal. In that state we can be extremely insensitive to everything around us, including those we love. We can blame our trait. 'I was just too tired, too overwhelmed.' But it still our duty to do whatever we can to communicate in a helpful way, or let the other know ahead of time, if possible, when we are unable to hold up our end."

"In several studies of married and dating couples, we found that the pairs felt more satisfied with their relationships if they did things together that they defined as exciting, not just pleasant. This seems logical. If you cannot expand any more by incorporating new things about the other into yourself, you can still create an association between the relationship and self-expansion by doing new things together. To an HSP especially, it may seem that life is to stimulating especially, and when you come home you want quiet. But be careful not to make your relationship so soothing that you do not do anything new together. Perhaps to do that, your hours apart have to be less stressful. Or you have to search for what expands you without over-arousing you."

"The doctor shares the culture's bias in mistaking your trait for shyness and introversion, and in viewing these, in turn, as less mentally healthy. Furthermore, for some doctors especially, sensitivity is a dreaded weakness they had to repress in order to survive medical school. So they project that part of themselves, and the weakness they associate with it, onto patients with any sign of it at all" (Chapter 15).